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About the Blog

The Right Number of Cups is a lifestyle and writing blog. Here, you’ll find everything from blogging tips to book recommendations. Occasionally I throw in tales from my daily life that I hope provide useful insights. Whether you’re looking for specific advice for your latest project or a bit of entertainment, this little corner of the internet has something for you.

I started this blog with a few goals in mind – to take control of my career, to practice my craft, and to share what I’ve learned along the way with other people who are just trying to figure out what’s going on. Ultimately, I hope that here you’ll find not only helpful tips and tricks, but a community of like minds.

What’s With the Name?

Families, real ones, are chairs and tables and the right number of cups…

Oranges Are Not the Only Fruit, Jeanette Winterson

I’ve always sucked at titles. Naming my work is pretty consistently my least favorite part of any writing project, and this blog was no exception. I read post after post that promised guidance for new bloggers looking for the perfect name for their site, but nothing sat right with me.

Eventually, following the advice of one of those blog posts, I started searching for quotes I might use for inspiration. Winterson has been my favorite author for years now, so naturally I turned to her best-known novel for words that might spark an idea.

The quote above from Oranges Are Not the Only Fruit is one that struck a chord with me the first time I read it in 2013. For me, it’s part of a complex moment. It’s heavy with feelings disappointment and inadequacy, but also with a longing for wholeness, belonging, and balance.

The latter sentiment is why I ended up choosing this line for the title of my blog. I’ve never been all that good at boiling my life down to just one aspect. I didn’t see any reason why launching a blog should change that. In the end, the “right number of cups” is not a value that can be prescribed, but one we each choose for ourselves.

About the Author

Let’s start at the beginning. I was born near St. Louis, Missouri, and raised outside of Nashville, Tennessee. My amazing parents adopted me as an infant, which has done a lot to shape the way I think about myself, the concept of family, and my worldview in general.

Seeking independence and eager to leave the South, I made the choice to attend Loyola University Chicago after high school. There I majored in English with a concentration in Creative Writing, and graduated in 2016. After, I immediately pursued an M.F.A. in Creative Nonfiction at Northwestern University, which I completed in 2019.

Unlike many who grew up crafting stories on construction paper or in composition notebooks, the thought of being a writer didn’t cross my mind until I was seventeen. I was unsure of what I wanted to do after high school, and sought advice from a couple of friends. One of them said something to the effect of, “You love to read, why don’t you write books?”

That comment sparked something in me. I started writing every day and I haven’t stopped since. While taking classes at Northwestern, I picked up a ghost writing gig that resulted in a published book. Although I loved working on the project, I knew I needed something steadier (and let’s face it, with better pay) to support myself.

I stumbled upon a posting for a content writer, got the job, and discovered the rich world of blogging. After eight months of writing for various company blogs, I decided it was time to start my own.

I now spend my time working at my day job and plucking away at my novel-in-progress. Recently, I returned to St. Louis, where I live with my girlfriend of four years and our three fur-babies.